The Josh Duggar situation… oh boy.
For years, Josh Duggar has been a family values spokesperson. He’s been pointing his finger at other people for hurting the sanctity of marriage. When he should have been pointing at himself since he was cheating on his wife! Not very family value-y.
On this topic, I’ve read a lot of blogs about how “we” should forgive Josh Duggar, usually from a Christian point of view. Clearly, that should really be up to his family, but his public reputation is also at stake. How should the public treat him?
To me, forgiveness is something that should be earned. You have to actually be sorry, show improvements, and work for it. And maybe then.
I’m not someone who forgives easily and I don’t think that’s a flaw. When you’re too forgiving, people take advantage of you and you get burned over and over.
Everyone knows “that girl” who is with a guy who is bad for her. Every time he cheats on her, he promises that he’s really sorry this time and he’ll change his ways. Riiiight. She takes him back again and again.
No, he’s a scumbag and you should kick him to the curb.
Obviously, it’s up to Anna Duggar whether to forgive him. I hope she takes into account that he didn’t even confess anything until he got caught red handed.
On Facebook, I made a few comments criticizing Josh Duggar. And I got a lot of these types of comments:
Oh, Julie, you must think you’re so perfect!
No, I acknowledge that I’m an imperfect human being and I’ve made mistakes.
Let him who is without sin, cast the first stone!
That quote, to me, means check yourself before you wreck yourself– something Josh Duggar should have done! Basically, don’t be a hypocrite. Don’t wag your finger at someone when you’re doing the exact same thing behind closed doors.
We’re all sinners!
That sounds dismissive when we’re talking about adultery. Like, c’mon guys, we’ve all cheated on our spouses! No biggie. We’ve all been there! No, I don’t think so. Cheating on your spouse and children is a big deal and it should be treated as such.
We’re all sinners. OK. Does that mean that no one is allowed to call out anyone for their wrongdoing, ever? I stole a candy bar when I was 5, so I better not say anything bad about rapists or child abusers because I have no room to talk? Please.
All sins are equal!
Really? So, gluttony is just as sinful as murdering someone? There are varying degrees of sin. It goes against common sense to say otherwise.
I hope you never find yourself in a situation where you need forgiveness!
One way to not be in that situation is to not commit serious sins in the first place. Not this: you shouldn’t do it, but if you do, shhh, there are ways to be forgiven so it’s all good. I realize I’m oversimplifying here. I wonder if that attitude is to permissive, though. Now, I assume I’ll make more mistakes in my lifetime. I don’t see myself committing “high level” skills because I have more self control than that. I don’t like this “all humans are weak” attitude. Psh.
This is not to say that the public will never forgive Josh Duggar. It just won’t be easy to earn forgiveness–nor should be it.